Every now and then there comes a point in life where you have to make a decision. What’s next? Either you start to feel restless or bored or dissatisfied with what you’re doing now – or it has run its course. On other occasions a new opportunity presents itself. Maybe even more than one, and if you are like me you weigh it carefully, trying to make the right decision.
Oh, the curse of a scientific mind sometimes! Thinking there would be something like a right decision when it comes to life. But don’t stop reading yet. Because even if there might not be the right decision, you can use some tools to help you make a good one.
Knowing your strengths, talents, interests and skills. But understanding what drives you is also a good strategy. You can start by reflecting on the questions below – be honest with yourself, there are no right or wrong answers. Or are there? The more honest you are the more right (not the best grammar, but you know what I mean).

Power, Independence, Recognition, Status and Competition

  1. How important is it for you to lead, to shape a team and to tell others what to do (or however you would phrase it)?
  2. Do you like to be independent in your decisions, your own boss and and flexible in your relationships?
  3. How important is it for you to get praise, recognition and respect from others?
  4. Is it important to you to be different than others? Or to distinguish yourself from others by power, status or money? Or is it more important to you to go unnoticed and appear average?
  5. Is comparison to others important to you to check your own performance? Or do you like it better to be next to or subordinate to others and work with them?

Curiosity, Order and Saving & Collecting

  1. Do you always look for knowledge and new impressions? Or is familiarity more important to you? And to enjoy the skills and competencies you already have?
  2. Which do you prefer: order, cleanliness and regularities or change and creative chaos?
  3. How important is it to you to own something, to keep your possessions? To have safety stocks and securities? Or are these things a burden?

Honour & Principles and Idealism & Justice

  1. How valuable is it to you to act on the values you hold dear? How loyal are you to your principles and rules – even though they might make things more difficult? Or do you prefer a sense of lightness, changing your principles if helpful?
  2. How important are fairness, social equality, justice and altruism for you? How much of your time and money do you donate one way or another?

Relationships, Family and Emotional Stability

  1. How important are social relationships, friendships and close and good connections to you?
  2. How much do you wish to be close to your family and need solicitude? To what extent are you prepared to give your energy, time and attention to you children or your partner?
  3. Do you have a strong need for calm, meditation, reflection and emotional balance? Or do you prefer adrenaline rush and healthy stress?

Eating, Drinking & Savouring, Physical Activity & Exercise and Beauty

  1. What level of importance do food and (savoured) drinking have for you to have a positive attitude towards life? Or are eating and drinking in a different category for you, for example health?
  2. How important is physical activity like exercise, taking a walk or dancing for your satisfaction with life? Or do you enjoy and prefer relaxation? Or is this completely unimportant to you?
  3. How much attention do you pay to beauty, sensuality, savouring and art? Or are these aspects not so important compared with functionality and usefulness?

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